Those 'old fashioned' vows may be great if you're into tradition, but here are some rather refreshing ones!

Huff Post has some great ideas when it comes to getting married. Like these vows:

1. I promise to clarify my expectations. If you don't know for sure what's going on in your partner's brain, then you have no idea what they actually expect to happen in your relationship. Rather than assuming, make sure you discuss what your partner expects in areas like your bank accounts, cooking dinner, parenting, intimacy, etc. Get it all out in the open!

2. I promise to give you the benefit of the doubt when it comes to money. Don't start off suspicious. Trust them regarding the money they spend. Trust their judgement, and trust that they know what they're doing...unless it becomes impossible to trust them. And if that happens, get them some help, without judgement.

3. I promise to make sure I'm not just hungry before I yell at you. Lol. Enough said!

4. I promise not to give in to you for the sole purpose of using my compliance against you later. Be honest. If you really don't want to do something that your spouse feels strongly about, but you do it anyway, don't hold it over their head later on.

5. I promise to defend you to others, even if you are wrong. It is embarrassing, it is shameful, and it is disrespectful to diss your spouse...or agree when someone else does. If you need to vent about something that is bothering you, do it privately with your spouse, not among other people.

6. I promise to try to put you before the children. This is a really, really tough one when you have newborns that suck all of the life out of you and require so much of your time and attention. Just remember that if your spouse is also giving 100% to the baby, then the two of you need to work together on a plan to get out for a date night or get time alone even in your own home together to keep your relationship strong.

7. I promise to do the stuff neither of us wants to do, if you really don't want to do it more than I don't. Fixing the bed, changing the cat litter, scheduling doctor appointments....I can think of a lot of these! It's a nice gesture, and hopefully reciprocated.

8. I promise not to keep score. Sometimes having a good long-term memory is detrimental...especially if you keep bringing up the past in current arguments. Plus, the longer you hold grudges against those little things, the more likely resentment is to rear its ugly head. Maybe things just don't have to always be 'even'. Choose loving instead of keeping a scorecard.

9. I promise to not care if you get fat or skinny or old. Now THAT is a romantic vow if ever i have heard one! Wouldn't it be nice to forever trust your partner enough so that you never have to worry about the younger, sexier girl at the office your husband works with? And vice versa?

10. I promise to put your happiness before mine. Now THAT'S love. Take your ego out of it. Take selfishness away. And just love your spouse.

 

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