Why You Should Never Go Back to an Ex

Have you ever thought about getting back together with someone from your past?

Sure you might really miss that person you used to call your 'significant other'...but getting back with an ex is usually a mistake.

Here are some of the reasons why:

-- You both are still inherently the same people you were. Unless one, or both, of you have undergone extensive self-help on your own because you wanted to change, people don't usually change that much. Maybe their behaviors are different, but, underneath it all, you will soon remember why it didn't work the first time for the two of you.

-- There were serious issues that were never resolved. The reason you broke up probably had something to do with some core belief you couldn't agree on that had to do with character, trust, respect, communication, family, friends, etc. If you disagreed then, and tried to work it out and couldn't, you'll most likely still disagree now. Why would you ever want to go back to that, knowing you'd have to try yet again to work out something that you were never able to work out the first time?

-- You make mistakes in order to learn and grow. So don't take a step backwards into your past. Keep moving forward. Trust that the reasons the relationship ended the first time were meant to be what they were, and move on.

-- Sometimes the comfort of someone you know from your past is enticing. You remember their sweet face, how well you knew them and they knew you, and that becomes a sharp contrast to the fear of dating someone new that you barely know and what it takes to really get to know a virtual stranger through dating. So going back to a past love seems safer and easier.

-- There are so many people you haven't yet had the opportunity to meet. Why limit yourself to someone you already tried with, when the odds of you finding someone new and better suited to you are in your favor?

-- You deserve the best. Don't settle. Your ex wasn't good for you. That's why the two of you broke up. Remember that.

-- You already went through that painful breakup process once with that person...regardless of who instigated it. Could you even imagine doing that again, after all the hurt and pain it inflicted? And has that ex really forgiven you, or could they be carrying a grudge that would rear its ugly head should you get back together for another try?